Pastoral Carers/Clergy can avail of up-to-date information and
advice on the procedures required and practical guidelines to
assist them in supporting the family involved by phoning the
'Information Hotline for Professionals'
at
087-423777
(available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week)
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It is very likely that the pastoral care team will be in contact with
the parents within hours of the death of their child. Your sensitivity
and understanding of their great loss will support and help them at this
tragic and difficult time.
- Ensure that all members of the pastoral care team are fully aware
of the facts, as well as the myths, about SIDS. ISIDA's training video
for professionals can assist in this area. Be aware of the up-to-date
information on SIDS and the procedures currently in practice.
- Always refer to the child by his/her name and acknowledge the reality
of the child's death to the family.
- Accept parents as they are, regardless of their religious beliefs.
- Be prepared for all emotional outbursts including possible angry
reactions.
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- For some parents the death of their child without the sacrament
of baptism can be a source of additional distress. Gently advise them
that, according to Christian faith, the loving mercy of God and His
tenderness towards children, Who desires that all people be saved,
means that children who have died without baptism will come to share
in the fullness of life and salvation.
- Advise parents that a funeral service can be held for baptised and
non-baptised children alike.
- Ask parents about their wishes regarding a funeral service and offer
them and their family the opportunity to participate in same.
- Parents may value your ongoing support throughout the grieving period
and may particularly appreciate acknowledgement of their child's birthday
and anniversary.
- Other family members, grandparents, uncles, aunts and so on will
also experience a sense of loss. While they may be a source of support
to the family they may also be in need of your support.
Remember that the sudden death of an infant or young child normally
affects all who come into contact with it. If you feel that
you would like to talk to someone, ISIDA provides a confidential
Nationwide Helpline 1800 391 391
where you can contact someone who understands and is willing
to listen - you do not have to be a parent or relative.
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